Love is simple
The soft things that matter most
February has a way of making love feel complicated. Lots of pressure to perform with big gestures and perfect moments.
But when I reflect on the times I’ve truly loved others and felt loved myself, it’s always been softer and simpler than that — I know, very on-brand for me.
Warmth
You know I had to start here. To me, warmth feels a lot like love. Instantly comforting, never too much.
For others: Waking up first to start the coffee. Making sure they brought a jacket. Pulling out the blankets at night before settling in to watch TV.
For yourself: Socks first thing in the morning. Warm homemade meals. Sitting in the sun. A cup of tea after dinner. A body kept warm is a body cared for.
Being Thought Of
Being thought of is one of the simplest ways we show love.
For others: Nothing I love more than picking up a tiny gift that says, I saw this and thought of you. It can be a pen. A cookie. A picture taken and texted to someone.
For yourself: The same applies. Noticing what your body needs early, before it has to ask louder. And then actually giving it what it needs: regular meals, rest, water, movement…or for me often a burger.
Reminders
Sometimes love looks like structure. Small systems that make us feel supported.
For others: Leaving a note in a suitcase. A text before a big day. A simple don’t forget, I’m thinking of you.
For yourself: This can be practical. A calendar hold to eat lunch. A midday alarm to step outside and walk. A moment to pause. The care is in the follow-through.
Soft Attention
Showing someone they matter by giving them your full attention is unlike anything else.
For others: Looking up they speak. Listening fully. Putting the phone down. Being present.
For yourself: Turning that same attention inward. Checking in. Slowing down. Listening to your body instead of ignoring it.
This is the version of love I will be celebrating this month — soft, steady, and simple. Who’s with me?
Stay warm - Dr. Stolberg
beautifully said
The postcard 🥹